The Energetics of Early Ejaculation and Intimacy Blocks

I asked my Chief Guide to come forward to teach me about sex, relationships, and early ejaculation. Here's our conversation:

I asked, “When men don’t ‘last’ as long in bed... what does that mean spiritually? Is this just a physical issue?”

He responded, “No, this is almost always a spiritual issue that is related to feeling emasculated or feeling unsure about one’s masculine identity.”

I asked, “Okay, does it have anything to do with the energy transferring between the upper and lower chakras?”

He said, “Yes, of course it does, because the person is not operating in one of the higher energetic areas. They are operating in the lowest area, and that area is overperforming.”

I asked, “Why do people in relationships sometimes lose their initial sense of deep connection?”

He replied, “The initial sense of connection occurs when people find areas of interest or areas of experience that correspond. This may go away as newer areas and newer experiences seem to indicate a disconnection. However, more often it is that the two are trying to find a through-line — a place where it is considered normal or typical to reside. As that couple tries to negotiate the through-line, they may feel periods of disconnection and uncertainty until they begin to see each other more clearly once again.”

I said, “Ah, yeah, okay. Is there a relationship between a woman being in her upper chakras and her level of vaginal wetness or fluids?”

He said, “Yes, this is an indication that the throat is working well.”

I asked, “What conditions need to be met by both parties in order to be operating in the higher chakras during intercourse?”

He replied, “A release from the fear of insecurity — whether that is financial, familial, relational, or stress-related. Those areas need to be disconnected from, talked through, or understood. Also, there needs to be joy and the feeling of security.”

I asked, “Does having intercourse while being in the lower chakras damage the individual or the relationship?”

He replied, “This can be damaging to the relationship, as it indicates that nothing is being fixed or actively worked on. There can be a time period where the couple may say, ‘Let us endure a bit of time where we are not attempting intercourse so that we may connect more deeply emotionally or spiritually.’ However, there can also be indicators that there was an encounter with a stressful trigger shortly before the sexual act that instigates an episode of premature ejaculation, and that should be discussed without feeling shame or believing it is solely an individual issue.”

I asked, “If one person is in the higher chakras and one person is in the lower, can one person bring the other’s energy up to a higher frequency?”

He responded, “No, each person is responsible for where they are on the chart.”

I asked, “Is masturbation negatively impactful?”

He said, “No, it is not at all. It is simply a physical matter that is indulged in, as long as it is not seeking distance or separation from whomever is currently present.”

I followed up, “What about if porn is involved?”

He said, “Very often this can be a negative influence, both because the performers are existing in positions of low self-worth, addiction, or abuse, but also because anything that is done for attention is not done with an attempt at reality. The acts depicted are often ones that do not occur in the day-to-day sexual activity of human beings, and may cause the couple, as a unit, to feel that they are operating below standards — when in reality, the media they are watching is not a standard at all.”

I asked, “How does being in the upper chakras influence conception?”

He replied, “In the upper values (chakras), the body functions better, and it allows for normal biological operations to occur. With the appearance of stress or worry or fear, the body begins to go awry, especially in those areas which are more concentrated upon, and it may decrease the chances for conception.”

I asked, “When an egg is fertilized, there’s that spark of light — which has been scientifically observed. What does that light mean spiritually?”

He said, “This is the Ruah that is occurring. This is the breath of God entering into that human’s body, and it has the force of a hurricane.”

I followed up, “So it’s life force?”

He said, “It’s a life force that is breathed into each person.”

I finally asked, “Given where everyone is now as a collective, what is the message that people need to know about love, sex, and relationships? What are we missing?”

He replied, “There is, in your culture, an overestimation that occurs which may result in either a person seeking out more and continued sexual escapades, which are damaging, or that there is disease or an emotional crisis that causes a person to decrease their sexual activity. Both are indicators of ill health. Both need specific therapies and intervention in order to achieve corrective health.”

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